WHAT IS POLYAMORY?

Polyamory comes from the Greek word; poly means “many” and the Latin word amour “love”. In simpler terms, it is defined as the practice to have more than one person in an intimate relationship with the consent of each partner involved in a relationship. In other words, it is defined as a “liberal, genuine, capable, and moral way of thinking and practice of cherishing numerous individuals at the same time”. According to the norms of polyamory, people can choose to form close relationships with many individuals rather than one person as dictated by societal norms. Individuals who distinguish as polyamorous may have confidence in an open relationship and conscious administration of envy and reject the view that sexual and social restrictiveness is essential for profound, long-lasting intimate relationships. 

These individuals like to restrict their sexual activity to just people from the specified group, a closed-knit polyamorous relationship which is typically alluded to as polyfidelity. It is a form of an umbrella term that comprises many different types of multi-partner relationships. It has been described as an ethical, consensual non-monogamous relationship. Many polyamorists characterize loyalty not as sexual selectiveness, but rather as dependability to the guarantees and arrangements made about a relationship. The concept of polyamory is not restricted to heterosexuals. People from different sexual orientations like gay, lesbian, bisexuals, etc can form a polyamorous relationship as well. In some cases, the polyamorous relationship is hierarchical in which the primary partner is at the apex. That individual maybe someone with whom one shares various responsibilities or in other cases there is a secondary partner, with whom one may have a close relationship but doesn’t share responsibilities that are shared with the primary partner.  Polyamory ought not to be mistaken for polygamy, which includes union with more than one individual. 

The few types of polyamory are-:

Triad-: This is the type of polyamory in which three people are involved but three individuals are not in a relationship with another but a single individual dates two different people at the same time. It is called Throuple.  

Quad-: As the name suggests, these four people are involved. It begins when two couple meets one another and are interested to form a polyamorous relationship that includes being sexually or romantically involved. 

Parallel polyamory- In this individuals are aware of each other’s partner but have very little touch with them. 

Besides the above-mentioned types, there are few other forms of polyamory relationships like solo polyamory, kitchen table polyamory, polycule

There is a notion among the people that most people who are in polyamory relationships are addicted to sex but it is not true. However, some instances describe problems faced by couples like envy, insecurity, trust issues etc. A person who accepted a polyamory form of relationship or open relationship because her partner wanted it.  Even though she was unsure in the beginning,  she wished to continue the relationship with her partner. During the few years of the relationship, she witnessed sexual dependence exhibited by her partner that made her vulnerable, jealous, and angry. Here, the person wanted a monogamous relationship but she wanted love desperately which made her walk down the self-destructive path. Though, not everyone who is involved in polyamory relationships has a sexual addiction. There is another instance of a person who was in a polyamory relationship. In the interview, she said that she reverberated with the idea of open, free sexual connections that could encourage further correspondence and closeness. She felt so comfortable in the polyamory circle and didn’t feel a disgrace about wanting to adore more than one person at the same time. 

It depends on the individual and the sort of relationship they want with their partners. Two different people had two different experiences in polyamory relationships. Sexual dependency isn’t a chief factor in polyamory and individuals who seek polyamorous relationships don’t take part in the over-the-top sexual movement that is normal for sex compulsion. In any case, individuals with sex addiction dependency that craves numerous lovers might be especially attracted to the polyamorous circle. Some individuals who seek polyamorous relationships set boundaries such as defining the details of the relationship, time they spent with their partner, and other things to avoid any complications that might arise. A person who is in a polyamorous relationship must come to terms with their feelings especially jealousy that is very common to surface. Also, the constraints of, society promote monogamous or single partner relationships. In the end, it depends upon the individual what kind of relationship they want. 

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